31 Signs He Wants to Make Love to You

Let’s face it: When a man dates a woman, sex is always in his mind. Men think about sex just as much as women do. And why not? Sex is nice.

And sometimes, some guys are just open with their feelings. They want to get intimate with you.

The thing is, Some men want casual sex. These are the guys who want to sleep around without having to commit to anything. To these men, dating is all about physical attraction and not much else.

Depending on what you want for yourself, you might want to steer clear of these guys.

Others are more serious. They want a serious relationship with a wonderful woman. It’s not just about physical attraction but physical intimacy, too. And if that’s what you also want, then these guys are the ones to look out for.

The challenge is to know the difference. How? By knowing the signs, of course.

And here’s the good news: There are many signs that show he loves and respects you—even if he’s hiding his feelings. Here are the signs to watch out for:

#1: He Doesn’t Insist on Sex if You Don’t Want It

This is perhaps the biggest sign of respect you can get from a man who loves you. Even several months into your dating relationship, if he knows you don’t want sex, he respects it. And he stays anyway. “True love waits,” as they say.

When he’s still dating you past the 6th month, it’s a fairly good sign he’s serious about you. And if you made love to him then it’s probably safe. He won’t suddenly lose interest and dump you. He’s in it for the long haul.


#2: His Eyes Don’t Lie

Also, trust your intuition. If you see it in his eyes, how he looks at you, that he loves you, then that’s a good sign. He doesn’t need to tell you—you both already know it.

#3: He Dresses Up for You

Does he look starkly better when he’s on a date with you? Or does he take your fashion advice when you give him some fashion and grooming advice? If he does, it means your validation is important to him—which wouldn’t be the case if he only wanted a hookup.

#4: He Enjoys Showing You Off

Does he like “showing you off” to his friends, family, and co-workers? Does he post photos of you together on social media, even when he’s technically not your boyfriend yet? These are signs he’s very excited to be.

When he enjoys showing you off, it means he’s not afraid of the most important people in his life holding him to his “claim” on you. He’s dead serious about taking things all the way with you.

#5: He Cares About Your Opinion

When he’s about to make an important decision in his life, does he ask for your opinion on it, even if it doesn’t involve you? If he does, that means he’s careful not to offend or turn you off. Yet another sign he’s serious about you.

#6: He Deepens His Voice With You

It’s a scientific fact: When a man is attracted to you, he deepens his voice even without knowing it. It’s a dead giveaway of his true feelings for you.

So do a quick check. When he’s with you, is his voice deeper than when he’s with other people (such as when you’re in a mixed group)? If it is, then chalk that up as yet another sign he’s really, really into you.

#7: He Can Be Vulnerable With You

This is when he gets rid of the “macho” image and is 100% upfront with you, especially with his fears, weaknesses, and flaws. He’s open to your criticism and correction and even eager to hear about it.

#8: He Drops His Hobbies to Spend Time With You

Have you ever needed his help when you knew he was out with friends or chilling at home? Did he come to your aid, regardless? If he did, that’s a sign you’re important to him—more so than his hobbies.

Fair warning, though: It might not be a good sign if he always makes you his top priority. If he does, he’ll get increasingly needy over time, and you’ll get increasingly frustrated and dissatisfied.

#9: He Tells You You’re Beautiful

Take note: The word is “beautiful.” He doesn’t use the words “hot” or “sexy,” which is a hookup invitation. It means he loves every bit about you, head to toe.

#10: He Wants to Be Your Hero


Has he ever helped you out of a major bind? Or, at the very least—have you ever told him about a gigantic problem you had and then watched him try to solve it for you?

Fewer signs of his love can be clearer than that.

#11: He’s Considerate of Your Needs

This is when he acknowledges your uniqueness and takes time to learn about your needs, wants, goals, dreams, and fears. He keeps them in mind as your relationship progresses, as though they were the “rules” he had to follow.

#12: He’s Not Afraid of PDA

PDA means “Public Display of Affection,” by the way. And he’s not afraid of holding your hand, wrapping his arm around your shoulder, or kissing you in public. If he were just interested in a hookup, he’d avoid PDA in fear of being spotted by the other women in his life.

#13: He Takes the Courtship Route

This might seem backward in a “progressive” age, but the courtship route still has charm. It worked well enough for our grandparents, who enjoyed much lower divorce rates than we do today. Is he hedging his bets? If he is, it’s a good sign.

#14: He’s Jealous of the Other Guys in Your Life

His mood turns sour when you talk about one of your other male friends. He may even make snide remarks about the other guy, even if he has never met him. Why would he do that? It simply means he wants you all to himself, that’s what.

Fair warning, though: While you can be sure he’s serious about you, his jealousy may reveal his insecurity. He may not be all that sure of himself and his ability to “win” you. And so he responds with helplessness and desperation when another guy comes into the picture.

#15: He Tunes In When You Talk About Relationships

When discussing past relationships (or love in general), does he tune right in? Does he listen carefully and consider your opinion?

If he does, you can bet he’s scouting. He’s looking for the “requirements” to win your heart. And that’s a good sign.

#16: He’s Touchy-Feely With You

This is when he’s not shy about touching, cuddling, pawing, necking, and kissing—even months into your relationship. He’d get bored with it all after a few weeks if he were only looking for a hookup.

#17: He’s Affectionate Even Outside the Bedroom


Let’s say you’re already sleeping with each other. Is his bond with you getting stronger instead of weaker? Is his love growing instead of fading?

That’s a grand sign he’s serious about you. He would have lost interest after one or two romps in the sheets if he weren’t.

#18: You Catch Him Glancing at You

If you’re not in a relationship but working and studying together, you might have caught him glancing at you a few times. He’s trying to catch your eye, and he isn’t shy to show it. That’s yet another sign he likes you that way.

#19: He Goes Out of His Way to Be With You

Does he still go spend time with you even when his schedule is tight? If he does, that means he enjoys your company, and he values your relationship more than his work—something only a truly serious man would do.

#20: He’ll Plan Dates Instead of Hookups

When he plans your dates, they’re always proper dates—with a fun activity, dinner, coffee or drinks… you get the idea. He doesn’t plan hookups or settle for the old “Netflix and chill” routine—you’re too good for that.

#21: His Body Language Shows It

When you’re talking to him, his body is directed to you. He’s attentive and slightly tense, as though he wants everything to go perfectly. Again, these are signs you’re more important to him than a chance hookup.

#22: He Emotionally Connects With You

Emotional connection is sometimes called “Chemistry.” You feel that special “spark” between you, whether you’re together or apart. Conversations and interactions are effortless.

#23: He Always Invites You to Be His Companion

He always asks you to join him for events where he needs a partner—and no one else. You’re always his +1.

#24: He Takes Things Slowly With You

Even if he’s the type to take the lead in your relationship, he goes at your pace. He won’t push if you’re not ready and will slow down if you ask him to.

#25: He Listens to You When You Need to Rant

This one’s bigger than you think. Most guys are not patient enough to listen to their girlfriends or wives rant. Even fewer men know you’re looking for sympathy, not solutions when you rant.

If he has both qualities, that should tell you that (1) he’s serious about you, and (2) he’s mature enough to handle a serious relationship with you. Lucky you!

#26: He Can’t Get Enough of You

Do you sometimes feel he’s obsessed with you? That’s another good sign, as it tells you he’s really, really interested in you.

Of course, as you might expect, there’s a drawback. If you keep him waiting too long, he might leave and never return to you. So enjoy his attention, but don’t take it for granted.

#27: He Replies to Your Messages Quickly

Have you noticed that he quickly replies to your texts, missed calls, and private messages, even during business hours or late at night? Again, that tells you he considers you even more important than his work and hobbies.

Still, do be careful. This extra-careful attention is usually normal early on in a relationship. If he suddenly stops replying to your messages promptly enough, it tells you he may have been looking for a hookup from the beginning and has given up the ruse.

#28: He Compliments More Than He Flirts

Is he more polite than flirty? Sure, that may sound boring and probably not good for sexual tension. But it tells you one thing: He’s being careful with your feelings. He doesn’t want to lose you, and that’s good.

The good news is that it’s easy to encourage him to be flirtier later on, so don’t get turned off if he’s too nice.

Speaking of…

#29: He’s the Perfect Gentleman

He holds doors, pulls out chairs, and helps carry your stuff. It’s old-fashioned, but like courtship, there’s a certain charm. It’s nice to be pampered once in a while, right?

It’s important to know this distinction: Is he gentlemanly because he wants to impress you, or is that just how he is? If it’s the former, he’s probably trying to pull one over you, so watch out.

#30: He Calls You Out of the Blue

“Hey, what’s going on?”

“Hi, just wanted to chat.”

“Hey, I was wondering what you’re up to.”

These little random calls may sound like sweet nothings, but they’re all good signs he’s interested in you that way.

And lastly:

#31: He’s Still Around After 6 Months

If you’ve been dating without sex for six months or more and he’s still around, then that’s your best guarantee he’s serious about you. Most players would quit by now, but he’s still here.

Again, remember that sex is always on his mind, as it is on 99% of the men you meet in the dating game. If he can hold himself back for more than six months, it means he doesn’t just want to have sex with you.

He wants to make love to you. And that’s a beautiful thing.

Ask The Expert

Q: What Does Making Love Mean to a Man?

Again, men like sex just as much as women do. Their readiness to have sex is “on” almost all the time.

Here’s the thing: As much as men enjoy sex, they don’t attach the same emotional meaning to it as women do. That’s why it’s easy for a guy to roll over and start snoring after sex while you stay awake, on a high, wanting to cuddle.

That’s why it’s important to know if a guy wants to “have sex” or “make love” to you. Only the latter option will give you any measure of guarantee that he’ll stick around.

Q: How Do You Know if a Guy Enjoys You in Bed?

To keep things short, you’ll want to observe two phases: How he is during sex and how he is after sex.

During your special intimate moment, you’ll know he enjoys you when:

  • He kisses you like he’s never kissed you before
  • He holds your hand and says your name
  • You can hear it in his moans and groans

After sex, you know he had a good time when:

  • He’s super-cuddly like he can’t get enough of you.
  • The pillow talk is awesome and dreamy
  • His afterglow is deep—like he’s high on something
  • He tells you he loved it, or he compliments you on how “dirty” you were

These are some of the signs to look out for if you want to make sure he enjoys making love to you.

Q: How Do You Tell if a Man is Attracted to You But Hiding It?

Also, keeping things short, look at his actions, not his words. A man can hide his feelings by pretending he only sees you as a friend, but if his actions say otherwise:

  • He’s there whenever he needs you
  • He never wants to hurt you or offend you
  • You feel he’s attracted to you, but it’s like he’s waiting for you to make the first move.

Q: How to Tell Him You Want It Too

Do you want to sleep with him but don’t want to sound dirty or desperate? It’s understandable to hesitate—your reputation is on the line. Luckily, the time-honored tradition of “dropping hints” still works.

So go ahead—drop hints and see if he picks up. It’s a great test to see if he’s a smart, savvy guy who understands women. If he picks up on your hints, that’s a great sign. If he doesn’t, you probably wouldn’t want to pursue a relationship with the poor, clueless guy.