You may think it’s easy to see if a man wants you to be the only woman in his life. Yet, so many women are struggling to find the right guy.
Most guys are players. They will fake a Mr. Right posture to get you to sleep with them. Then they’ll ditch you because you don’t mean anything to them.
So, how long does it take for a man to want to know if he wants in his life forever? It varies by age, employment status, level of maturity, and a host of other factors.
We know that a man will make it happen if he wants you. For that reason, we chose to share our expert knowledge. We want you to learn the obvious signs of boyfriend material.
How do You Tell if a Man Wants You?
Remember we said that if a man wants you he will make it happen? The truth is, dating is quite simple, even though most guys make it seem confusing AF.
But, because we are experts in the dating arena, we can tell you that you don’t need to question how he feels about you. Here’s how you can tell:
You Won’t Need to Chase Him
If a guy is not interested in making you the only girl in his life, he will not give you much of his time. When a guy likes you, he makes plans to meet you. He won’t ghost you.
You won’t always have to seek his attention because he desires that you stay in his life forever. If he’s playing mind games, he is not into you.
In fact, if you chase him, he’ll wonder why you need him so much. After all, top tier women are supposed to have tons of worthy guys running after them.
He’ll Go out of His Way to Send Hints
You can tell if a guy has real feelings for you by paying attention to his words and actions.
For example, does he want to move your relationship forward? Is he aiming to reach the point where he could possibly spend his life with you? Has he been watching wedding videos on TikTok?
Take notice of his words and what he’s doing; you won’t need to wonder. His actions will show clear signs even if he does not say what he wants from you. So, try and pay more attention to your guy.
He’s Always Spending Time with You
A guy isn’t going to waste his time making regular hangouts with a woman unless:
- He wants her
- He’s good friends with her.
No matter what, he’ll make excuses to spend a few extra minutes with you. He’ll even give up being with other guys, even if it’s only to say hello.
Worthy guys Walk beside You
Patty Wood, author of Success Signals: A Guide to Reading Body Language, has a few words of caution. She talks about guys who always walk two steps ahead.
This behavior can mean he’s more concerned about his well-being than yours. He should be making a massive effort to adjust his pace to yours unless he’s leading you through a public space.
HE IS TRANSPARENT
You’ve never met a guy so honest in your life. You don’t get any mixed signals. Instead, he is open when discussing the future and tells you how much you mean to him.
If he’s not honest with you, then it’s a sign that you won’t have a healthy relationship.
It’s also important to note that he may be afraid of heartbreak so he might have his guard up. So go past him and look for someone else.
What Makes a Man Choose You?
As a single woman, you need to know that choosing a partner is about compatibility. Many guys crave a close emotional connection.
This connection is what differentiates you from other girls. Once you develop that connection, you can become a romantic partner.
Another important factor is social compatibility. If your guy feels connected to you, he’ll want to show you off to his family and friends.
He wants them to see your positive impact on him. As a result, he’s more likely to pursue women who can fit into his social circle and relate to his family.
So, can you connect with him, or is it the complete opposite? Do you share a hobby or belief? Your being a positive influence can establish an attraction far beneath the surface.
Don’t try to imagine what he’s like with other women. Instead, focus on your connection with him.
The woman who can share an inspiring and fun moment with him will always win. So stop badgering him with questions about other women.
If you have concerns about the relationship, do an honest and reflective evaluation. And instead of nagging your guy, talking works well. So ask him what his intentions are. This idea may stress you out, but at least you won’t have to wonder any more.
10 Things a Man Will Do When He Wants You
Men differ from women in many ways; the most obvious is how they express their feelings. Still, if a man wants you, he will make it happen. Nothing will stand in his way. He’ll find ways to let you know you’re the only girl for him.
So here’s a little relationship advice. First, stop chasing other guys and pay attention to the one interested in you.
Pop culture shows the modern man how to be persistent. For example, the male lead character in romantic movies must work way harder than the other guy to win over his lady love.
Life teaches us that we need a good work ethic to achieve what we want. Therefore, the right guy will continue seeking to make the relationship happen unless he’s a weak dude.
Here’s what he’s likely to do:
He will make the first move
During their adolescence, most men learn that they’re supposed to make the first move. He’d have seen it on TV shows and movies even if his parents and friends didn’t teach him.
Most girls prefer to have the guy make the first move, but it’s not that important. If you want him to know how you feel, flirt with him
He’ll keep pursuing you even if you ignore his phone calls
He wants to talk to you, share with you, and connect emotionally. If you’re super stressed, you may try to brush him off, but if he likes you, he will want to make you feel better.
There’s no wrong time to return his calls because he will be anxious to hear from you. He might even tell you he likes you all the time. And you might even be cool with that since it’s always adorable to hear.
Invite you to spend holidays with him
People tend to do all they can to make holidays meaningful. So did he invite you to a Fourth of July barbecue or Thanksgiving dinner?
If so, you can be sure he wants you to be a significant part of his life. In addition, you will meet his family and friends at these events, which is a huge milestone.
From there, he will start including you in his regular hangouts. He takes these actions to prove that you’re a massive part of his world because he wants to stay in your life.
He makes you feel like you’re the only woman in the world
He’ll tell you you’re the only one for him if he’s a super mature guy. That’s the best way to move a relationship forward. Only the truth – no mixed signals.
He will leave his past relationship in the past. That is a more than obvious sign that you’re the most important woman in his world.
He’s too busy dreaming about his future with you to think about things that happened in the past.
He will try to improve the quality of your life
Now there’s an unusual one! It’s straight out of Steve Harvey’s iconic 2009 book, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man.
In it, Harvey, a comedian, motivational speaker, and author posted: “Providing for the ones he loves and cares about, whether it’s monetarily or with sweat equity, is part of a man’s DNA, and if he loves and cares for you, this man will provide for you all these things with no limits.”
He’ll give without expectations
If a man wants you he will make it happen. But he won’t make it happen by holding you at ransom. Your guy will put some effort into his dates and won’t ask for anything in return.
One of the signs of a man with potential for a relationship is that he doesn’t count the things he does for you. Such guys are keepers for life!
This guy will make it happen because he cares about you as a person, and sex is only an expression of his love. Unfortunately, it’s not the end goal.
He’ll seek to become a better version of himself
We’ve said it already, and we’ll repeat it: if a man wants you, he will make it happen. So many women hope to change their men, but if he wants to be with you, he will change himself to suit you.
No work required on your part. He’ll become a better listener for you, pay more attention to your needs … he’ll do whatever it takes to keep you.
Of course, things may change after he thinks he has you in the bag. It’s up to you to ensure that he never drops his new standards.
HE WILL MAKE YOU LAUGH
When a guy likes you, he ensures you’re happy, no matter what. Don’t be afraid of his humor. It demonstrates both flexibility and intelligence in a man.
It’s great that he’s engaging in silly talk and making jokes to get you to laugh, especially if he’s doing it often.
However, he should be working to make you feel happy – which is how he can prove he’s cherishing you.
He’ll be proud to proclaim you as his
Imagine you go out on a date, and your guy sees a couple of his friends. What kind of introduction do you hope for?
At some point, early in the relationship, we’re sure you’d like to hear, “this is my girlfriend, Daphne.”
Of course, it may take a little time to get there, but his proclaiming you is among the signs that he’s serious about you. He’s not afraid to tell the whole world you’re his.
He’ll get to know your family and friends
You won’t have to talk him into meeting the people who are closest to you. He’ll make an effort because he understands.
He respects the importance that these people have in your life.
The truth is, he knows how much they love you, and you love them. And so, your man wants to get comfortable around them. He knows that, at the moment, they are some of the best allies he can have.
He’ll become your knight in shining armor
You’ll never have to be afraid of anything again! When protecting you, he won’t just “talk the talk.”
Guys get a confidence boost from being dependable. Their testosterone levels rise when they protect the people close to them.
So if he sees you putting much effort into something, he’ll volunteer to solve it immediately. He’ll help you breeze through your math homework or problems with your computer.
His protection is another one of the sure signs that he’s interested in you.
How Do You Know if a Man is Truly Interested in You?
It’s easy for modern guys to reach out and make it happen. However, if your guy isn’t calling or texting, you may need to face the hard truth: he’s not interested in you.
So how can you tell when guys are ready for a relationship?
It’s easy to tell when a guy is ready to make it happen. As we stated earlier, he will try to change some things about him if he wants you in his life.
However, he will also make it evident that he’s unable to imagine life without you.
Show You’re Interested
If a man wants you, he will make it happen (as long as you show some interest in him). So engage in conversation and make eye contact.
Return his phone calls and text messages, and go out on dates with him.
It’s no use trying to play hard to get if you like the guy. He has to work hard to gain your interest, so show him his effort is not in vain.
Let him know you feel the same way about him.