Good Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend To Get To Know Her Better

Don’t you all just love the initial getting-to-know-you phase of a relationship?

Some may say there’s an element to this that never really ends, and to a point, those people are right.

When the relationship officially begins, that’s when you want to dig deep and find the really juicy questions to really get to know who you’re falling in love with.

You want to get to know your girlfriend better? Prepare for the zany to the romantic, the inquisitive to the comedic.

Every question has an answer…

Are you ready for hers?

The Memories of Love

Loving you is easy, right? You’re this happy-go-lucky guy who always wants to hear good things about yourself. 

You’ve come to the right spot if you want to press your girl into hearing all the ways she loves you. 

And you know what? Her answers will help you in the long run. You’ll know exactly what to do to turn the romance dial on.

Here they are:

1. What’s your idea of a perfect weekend with me?
2. What do you remember about our first kiss?
3. How do you feel when we’re apart from each other?
4. What is a dream or goal you have for us as a couple?

A Little More…

If it wasn’t enough to know the basics, it’s time to jump to level two.

Intimacy and all the ways your girl wants to feel wanted need to radiate to the surface if you’re to please her in the long run. 

Knowing how deeply she defines intimacy (and trust me, with women this is far more than sex) will give you all the help you need to be there for her.

Let the fun begin:

1. What does intimacy mean to you?
2. How do you like to spend quiet time together?
3. What makes you feel wanted?
4. How do you picture us 10 years from now?

What Matters

I like to throw in a few questions that leave space for what can really matter to a person. The values from the heart, the strength that has carried a person all these years, and how more conflicted times are handled will help you get to know your girlfriend in more detail. 

1. What values are most important to you in life?
2. What do you think is your greatest strength, and how has it helped you?
3. How do you deal with conflict when it arises in relationships?

The Self

We all matter to somebody, but we should also matter to ourselves. You can’t pour from an empty cup, so you need to make yourself a priority.

How does your girlfriend like to do this?

You’re about to find out!

1. How do you nourish your mind, body, and soul?
2. What does self-care look like for you?
3. What do you believe is humanity’s greatest strength and weakness?

When Life Throws a Curveball

You have to know how to deal with it, right?

Some are better at handling challenges more than others, but a starting point for all couples is to explore together what they mean.

How can you be there as an ear to listen, and how can they open up to you?

With these questions, of course!

1. How do you handle disappointment, and what have you learned from it?
2. What challenges have shaped you the most in life, and how have they done so?
3. How do you manage change and uncertainty in your life?

Unlock The Weird and Wonderful!

Because life is too short to be serious all the time!

Be creative, be inquisitive, and love the opportunity to ask the weird questions. I will warn you though:

Weird questions often leave room for weirder answers.

1. If you could have any superpower, what would it be and why?
2. What’s the weirdest thing you’ve ever eaten?
3. Do you have any quirky habits that not many people know about?
4. What’s the funniest thing that’s ever happened to you?
5. What’s your favorite holiday and why?
6. What’s a talent you wish you had?
7. If you were a character in a video game, what type of game would it be?
8. What’s a fictional food or drink you’d most like to try?
9. If you could only eat one food for the rest of your life, what would it be?

Looking For Love

Getting to know the woman in your life doesn’t need to just be something you do and take from day to day. In fact, the following questions will help you in your relationship with her.

You can be the guy who gives her what she needs, in a world where she may not have had that yet. 

Sounds good to you?

1. What’s something you find irresistible in a person?
2. Is there a quality you find especially attractive in me?
3. If we could escape anywhere for a weekend, where would you want to go?
4. What’s your favorite type of kiss?
5. Are you more into mind games or body language when flirting?
6. What’s your guilty pleasure in romance?
7. What’s something magical about falling in love?
8. What’s a fantasy or daydream that frequently pops into your mind?

The Layers of Women

And I commend them for having layers. Women love to unpeel and speak up about times they found difficult, or what they’ve learned in life so far. 

Propel them into a space where they can be honest and open, and you will receive honest and open answers. 

1. Can you think of a time when we just clicked?
2. How do you approach making significant life decisions?
3. What’s something you’re currently working on improving about yourself?
4. How do you handle situations where you feel misunderstood or unheard?
5. What are your thoughts on aging and the passage of time?
6. What do you consider to be your greatest privilege, and how do you use it?
7. What important lessons about life did you learn from your parents or guardians?

Keeping It Light

We all like the simple questions – life can’t always be deep and meaningful, can it?

From the random to the inspiring – getting your girlfriend to think about the what ifs will ignite the fun back into any conversation.

1. What’s a reality TV show you secretly enjoy?
2. What’s your favorite guilty pleasure snack?
3. If you had a theme song that played every time you walked into a room, what would it be?
4. What’s a hobby you’ve always wanted to pick up but haven’t yet?
5. What’s a random skill you wish you could master overnight?
6. If you could design a new app, what would it do?
7. If you had to live in a different country for a year, where would you choose to go?
8. If you could be famous for one thing, what would it be?
9. If you were a chef, what would be your signature dish?