9 Reasons Men Come Back When Women Forget About Them

Pitter patter.

Pitter patter.

Knock, knock.

Who on earth is at your door this time of the day or night?!

You get to the front door and see the familiar silhouette on the other side.

Ugh.

You were doing so well with them firmly locked in your past. Now they’re here, like an old, lost, moth-eaten boot.

Make no mistake – there are reasons why he’s showing up again.

Are you ready to dive in and find out which one it could be for you?

Moving On

Moving on is a gift offered to all, but not every person takes up this opportunity. Many get stuck in the past, waiting, wishing, wanting.

What is it all for? Why is this energy being wasted on a person clearly uninterested?

Instead – think about this.

Moving on will give you a new lease of life. It will put to bed all the ways this guy was holding you back.

You can be free!

What Is It About Coming Back?

Sadly, even when you feel free, men still return. 

They don’t want to necessarily make you upset, but they do intend on making their presence known. 

They want your attention, and they definitely have something to say to you.

What could it be?

Are you even prepared to listen, or should you flick the light off and pretend Nobody’s home?

Reasons Why Men Return

#1 Needing That Sweet Hook-Up

Run for the hills.

You don’t need a hook-up with a man who you have framed a photo of and labelled it MY PAST.

Think of all the time and healing it took you to get to this point.

You’ve kissed goodbye to what you were, and now you’re in a different place.

Do you want to invite the past back to your new place?

Is one hook-up worth all of that?

#2 He Misses You

Well isn’t that lovely?

I miss having the energy I had when I was 21, but there’s not much I can do about that.

Missing somebody comes down to your own circumstances. Ask yourself if they are a good person, and are being genuine.

Do they have a real apology to make, or are they looking to start up again with you?

You shouldn’t be doing anything that isn’t for the best for you.

I understand any wistful glance you take into the past, but don’t make the glance a permanent stance. 

#3 He’s a New Man!

I went away!

My soul had a makeover!

I am a changed man!

I promise this time I will treat you how you deserve to be treated!

It all fires your way, and everything he says sounds like it’s been tied with pretty bows. 

Beautiful.

But oh, wait. Do you believe him? Have you been here before?

You’ve forgotten about him, and I think you’ll agree that life is a lot rosier since you’ve refused to go back to where you once were. 

 #4 He’s Searched – To Zero Extent

I tried to find somebody as good as you, but that woman doesn’t exist.

You’re the only duck in my pond!

Let me convert this for you.

“I made a huge mistake in how I treated you, and how I let you go too easily. My regrets have brought me back to you in hope you can forgive me.”

It doesn’t work this way, ladies. 

Not a soul on this planet should believe any person when they tell you they’ve searched. What are they searching for, if you already exist anyway?

Why look, when what they’re saying they actually want is right there?

#5 He’s Not Over You

What does it matter if they’re not over you? The point is, you are over them. They’re yesterday’s news.

You’ve got this beautiful, wonderful life that you’re not going to waste another moment of. So let’s look at it this way:

If you return to somebody you are over, because they are not over you, you are doing your well being, your identity, your goals – all of it – a huge disservice. 

Maybe he isn’t over you, but that doesn’t need to be your problem, anyway.

It’s his to fix and heal. Eventually he will meet a new woman who he loves and wants to spend his life with. 

That doesn’t need to be a weight that you need to carry. 

Why should you?

Wish him well, and keep that door closed.

#6 The Confidence Boost

The way you always used to help him out of his low moods.

The way you showed him he was worthy.

The way you helped him apply for that job.

The way you invested in him like nobody else. 

Well, that’s admirable, and you achieved that well.

You truly were a remarkable spouse, but you broke up, and now you’ve forgotten about them.

You’re over them. You may have even met another man.

You don’t need to play the role of confidence booster, not any more. 

#7 He Regrets Ending Things

Well, so what?

What are you supposed to do with that information?

I imagine there’s things you regret, too, but what? You can’t go back or change any of it, so what’s the point?

If you really want to make a change, the best way to handle regret if it involves another person, is to offer a simple apology. 

Nobody needs to “come back.”

Forgetting somebody means you literally pay them no mind.

Your energy is on other things, and you prioritize more important aspects of life.

As you should. 

#8 Just An Innocent “Hello”

I was passing by, and I just wanted to say hello.

Nope. I’ll tell you what you want. You wanted to stop by, and use the fact that you were ‘just passing’ as an excuse to try and resurrect something long dead.

If you’ve truly moved on, no man should be trying to slow down your progress. 

Leave them to their regrets, and wish them well. 

#9 Closure

The one thing I will say about closure is that not everybody gets to have it. 

For those who don’t, healing can be long and drawn out.

Much self-reflection is needed, and inner growth to realize that you’re not the problem. 

If a man stops by to look for closure from a woman, underlying reasons may be added.

That doesn’t mean you should pander to them. It’s not your responsibility. 

You may even display a surprised, shocked look when they roll up.

I mean, forgetting them means forgetting them, right?!

Closure can come with a short explanation, and wishing them well with their next chapter.

It doesn’t have to be any more complicated than that.