31 Things Women Should Never Do For a Man

You meet the man of your dreams, and you enter into this life-changing relationship with him.

Everything is beautiful, except one thing. 

After a little time, you can’t seem to remember who you are any more.

Once, you were happy, vibrant, and you took care of yourself.

Now – you’re a stranger.

I will tell you that if you are giving more than you’re getting – you’re going to feel this way.

Here are 31 things that I am talking about.

1. Change Who You Are

Stop it. You’re you, right? Why let a man decide he’s going to come along and demand that you change any of it?

Never be pressured to alter anything about you just to fit the expectations of somebody else. Stay true to yourself. 

2. Resign Your Dreams

Your goals all stem from your purpose, and there’s only one person in the driving seat of them – you. 

If you’re quitting them or putting them on hold for somebody else – especially a man – forget it. I’m personally asking you to stop it. 

They’re never going to do the same for you. 

3. Neglect Your Happy

If you’re always trying to make somebody else happy over your own happiness, you’ll just end up feeling drained and resentful. 

Quit it. 

4. Apologize for Things You Didn’t Do

What’s the point in saying sorry when you didn’t do anything wrong?

You shouldn’t need to keep the peace like that. Stand your ground. 

5. Let Go of Independence

If you’re surrendering your financial, emotional and personal independence, then ask yourself what it’s all for.

Compromising them for a relationship will be one of the biggest mistakes you make.

6. Tolerate Disrespect

If he’s disrespecting you, then he’s not loving you. If he’s shrewd enough to do it in public, that’s even worse!

Respect is non-negotiable. You should never tolerate otherwise. 

7. Give Him Unlimited Chances

It’s important to forgive genuine mistakes, but if he keeps making the same ones without the effort to change, you’re going to need to just move on. 

There’s no other way to solve it. 

8. Dumb Yourself Down

Making yourself smaller just so a man can feel smarter or more powerful isn’t sending the right message to you – or him.

You’re an asset, and so is your intelligence. It shouldn’t be a threat, and to the right man, it won’t be. 

9. Do All the Emotional Work

Relationships are a two-way street, and no one person should be doing all the work to keep it alive. 

It’s exhausting to be that person, and I;d hate it if that were you. 

10. Make Excuses for Bad Behavior

Treating you poorly is just a no. No matter what. If you’re not appreciated, you need to get up out of there.

There are no excuses. 

11. Abandon Your Support

If he’s asking you to cut off friends and family, he’s asking too much of you. Don’t allow yourself to be isolated. 

That can be where the real problems start. 

12. Tolerate Any Cheating

Cheating is cheating. Emotional or physical – you just can’t tolerate it. If he can do it once, he’s damn sure going to do it again at some point, no matter how much he promises you it won’t happen. 

13. Be His Mom

You’re his partner, not his parents. It’s not your job to make sure he has everything he needs and to clean up after him. Take that weight off your shoulders. 

14. Stay Silent When You’re Hurting

If  you’re afraid to speak up, you need to ask yourself why you can’t feel the need to raise your voice and speak honestly. 

Bottling it only leads to resentment.

15. Let Him Control Your Decisions

On what planet should this be acceptable? Your decisions are yours, are they not? Don’t let any man pull you in the direction you don’t want to go. 

16. Change Your Appearance for Him

Your appearance is yours to own and yours to decide what to do with. 

If you want to try something new for you, then go ahead, be my guest. 

If you’re doing it because your man demands it, it’s time to ditch the man.

17. Ignore Red Flags

Red flags are those gut feelings you get when you see or hear something you know isn’t right. Stop trying to convince yourself otherwise, or make excuses for them.

They’re obvious situations that you cannot ignore.

18. Pay for Everything

A healthy relationship is based on balance. That means sometimes you pay, and sometimes they pay. 

If you’re the one footing the bill all the time, you’re going to have to start prioritizing what actually matters. 

19. Settle for Less Than You Deserve

Who is doing this? Stop it! Knowing how much you’re worth means only those who can afford you get to have the chance to love you. 

You’re not on sale!

20. Change Your Boundaries 

Boundaries shape how your life gets to play out. If you’re intolerable of an action, you can delete it from your expectations and replace it with a boundary. Nobody gets to overstep them.

21. Compete with Other Women for His Attention

No. And if you’re being made to compete, you’re going to have to step aside and let him pass you by. 

You don’t need to prove yourself to anybody. 

22. Ignore Your Own Needs

Your mental, emotional, and physical well-being should never take a backseat, especially to the wellbeing of the man!

23. Wait Around for Him to Change

If he’s not treating you the way you deserve, you’re only wasting more time waiting for the change that will neer come. 

Magic doesn’t happen this way, so choose to leave and rediscover your self-worth. 

24. Give Up Your Personal Space

Everybody needs time for themselves, even if you’re in a long term relationship. Take it where you can and never give it up. 

If you’re asked to – that’s not love. 

25. Accept Empty Promises

Empty promises cut deep, don’t they?

You wait, wish, hope and have faith they will come to fruition.

But they don’t.

Stop believing in words that have zero actions to back them up. 

26. Sacrifice Your Standards

Don’t lower yourself just to keep that man in your life. Live life to the high standards you once set for yourself. 

27. Let Him Gaslight You

Gaslighting is a sign that you’re in a relationship with a narcissist. Those are some pretty damaging people, and you need to leave. 

Manipulation can feel intense, and it’s easy to think that you’re the problem when you’re not. 

28. Say “Yes” When You Mean “No”

Say no! Let’s practise it together – NO!

It’s okay to say it when you usually say yes just to go along with whatever it is. 

29. Ignore Your Career Goals

Your career has mattered to you all this time, so your goals need to be kept in the line of sight. 

Any person you’re in a relationship with needs to support them, not ditch them. 

30. Stay Just Because of Time Invested

Any time you wasted with them has gone, and you can’t get it back. 

Now you get to determine your future.

Do you cut and run, or waste more?

I’m here for anybody who breaks away from something unfulfilling. 

31. Forget That Love Should Feel Good

Love is the best! If it doesn’t feel good, if you’re exhausted, if it feels like it’s all on you to keep it alive-  stop. 

Refind that joy either alone or with somebody else.