10 Signs He is Just Leading You On

Nobody wants to admit that the person they like is stringing you along just for the sake of it.

We want to know that we mean something to those we see a potential future in, right?

You look for the good, you sniff out the positive, and you write the rest yourself.

But what if you write the wrong story?

What if you see what’s actually not there?

Here are ten signs he’s leading you on, and I hope they are all eye openers for you.

#1 He Only Reaches Out When It’s Convenient

Of course he does! He isn’t interested in inconveniencing himself for you. He wants you only when he has the time, or when he can be bothered.

And listen, you aren’t a terrible person, nor are you worthless.

So why allow yourself to put up with this kind of treatment?

Don’t!

It’s time to understand that this kind of treatment is nothing but a form of false lead. 

You deserve better, so try to see the red flag that I’m waving to you. 

#2 Gives You Just Enough to Keep You Hooked

One minute, the hot tap is on and flowing, the next, your fingers feel like they’re about to fall off because the water is just so unimaginably cold. 

So what happens?

Well, they master the art of giving you just enough to keep you hooked.

They throw little breadcrumbs your way, and expect you to follow them and gorge on them the moment they fall to the ground. 

Are you a bird?

No, you’re not.

You don’t need me to remind you of that, of course. 

Mixed signals are for the dysregulated. You need somebody who you can feel safe and loved with. 

#3 Avoiding Defining the Relationship

Well, you know. We’re just hanging out and enjoying life.

Okay sorry, are you in a relationship or are you walking your dog in the park?

Come on!

If your guy is dodging the question of what you actually are, then they’re officially excuse makers and should be avoided.

There should be no ‘going with the flow’ unless you both firmly agree that’s the case. 

#4 The Flirting with Others 

If a man genuinely loves you, they aren’t going to be flirting with anybody else along the way. 

You shouldn’t have to compete for their attention, nor should you tolerate anybody wanting or wishing to keep their options open.

Big no!

You’re not an option, so stop living like one. 

#5 Cancel Plans Often? Check!

Choosing to do something else, or spend time with other people instead of you is their way of putting you way down on their list of priorities. 

Excuses are weak, and if your company isn’t to be enjoyed, then they need to move on so you can find somebody to have real fun with. 

Life is too short, am I right?

#6 He Only Wants to Hang Out When it Suits Him

If you’re only invited out because he has nothing better to do, then understand your place in his world. 

He’s keeping you just close enough to feel like you’re liked, but far away enough to not have to commit to seeing you often.

It’s not the best way to handle a potential partner. 

#7 He Avoids Emotional Conversations

Most men will avoid the deep and meaningful conversations unless they are really into you. 

If you’re finding yourself feeling like you are talking to a brick wall, perhaps you should reconsider what you mean to them. 

Trust me when I say, if he cares, he’s going to give you the time and vulnerability you are asking for. If not, you can be assured he’s just wasting your time. 

Your feelings don’t deserve to be dismissed in that way. 

#8 He Keeps Your Relationship Under Wraps

So, you’ve been together for a while, yet there seems to be a genuine lack of meeting his friends and/or family?

There’s a reason for that, and I hate to be the one to break it to you, but it’s because he is leading you on. 

If he takes you seriously, you’ll be at the center of the important things he does, or places he goes.

Anything else is just for jokes and shallowness. 

#9 He Gives Excuses, Not Effort

I’m sorry.

I’m having car troubles.

I don’t feel good.

My phone broke.

I had to work late.

I lost track of time.

I fell asleep.

What is it with the excuses?

These are absolutely weak and meaningless!

Effort needs to come to the surface for anything to be worthwhile, so if you’re not seeing it, then that will be a reflection on how they feel.

I know you might want him to feel those emotions. Is it not better to read the situation for how it is and move on, rather than waste time hoping for change?

#10 Your Gut Tells You Something Isn’t Right

The gut and mind are closer related than you probably think, and it’s so true.

If something isn’t adding up, then you’re going to feel that tension and unease in your gut, and too many people totally ignore it. 

Relationships come from two people being totally committed to wanting to make it work, but if you aren’t looking for the problems, you’re not going to find them.

The gut will signal alarm bells, and that’s where you need to sit up and pay attention. 

If you want to be happy, trust that your gut is leading you to a better future for yourself. And yeah, that can mean admitting that you’re being led on.

The gut never lies!

What to Do If You’re Being Led On

Sometimes, the advice we need to hear is the advice we are never really willing to listen to.

That’s when I like to say this: 

If you were offering advice to your best friend, what would you say? If you would say it to them, you need to start offering the same words and sentiment to yourself, too. You’re just as worth it as your friend is. 

So, if you’re being led on, it’s time to start taking your power back, with these three golden nuggets of life advice.

1. Communication is key, so ask them directly about their intentions and if they don’t give you a clear answer, show them the door!

2. Set Boundaries insteading of allowing yourself to be somebody’s backup. Make it clear that you deserve honesty and consistent treatment.

3. Walk Away if they can’t give you what you deserve, and stop wasting your time. The right person won’t make you question your worth or make you doubt yourself.